Stop the Drama and Do the Work (At the Whiteboard)

Purpose: To promote the life script.
The roles of Persecutor, Rescuer and Victim are portrayed in psychological games.
Serves as a training ground for powerlessness.
Prevents psychological equality in relationships.

Will go on as long as someone is willing to be victimized.

Think if you will about a triangle. On each end are roles that we play in life. One is the persecutor, another is the victim and the last is the rescuer.

**If anyone in this triangle changes roles, the other two roles change as well.

PERSECUTOR – “It’s All Your Fault”

Sets strict limits unnecessarily.

Blames

Criticizes

Keeps Victim oppressed

Is mobilized by anger

Rigid, authoritative stance

“Critical” Parent

TO GET OFF THIS TRIANGLE, MOVE TO CLEAR STRUCTURE

VICTIM – “Poor Me”

Feels victimized, oppressed, helpless, hopeless, powerless, ashamed

Looks for a Rescuer that will perpetuate their negative feelings.

If stays in Victim position, will block self from making decisions, solving problems, pleasure and self-understanding.

“Dejected” stance.

TO GET OFF THIS TRIANGLE, MOVE TO PROBLEM SOLVING

RESCUER – “Let Me Help You”

Rescues when really doesn’t want to.

Feels guilty if doesn’t rescue.

Keeps victim dependent.

Gives permission to fail.

Expects to fail in rescue attempts.

“Marshmallow” Parent

TO GET OFF THIS TRIANGLE, MOVE TO CLEAR NURTURING

SOURCE: SCRIPTS PEOPLE LIVE BY by Claude Steiner